My Obession with Nigerians😩😂

So this is how it all got started 🤦🏾‍♀️😩😂 My first year at University of Texas -Arlington I lived on campus and worked at the Holiday Inn in Irving (about 45-55 minutes away) one day my car wouldn’t start and I called in. My manager needed me so he got the taxi driver who does the hotel shuttle runs to drive out to Arlington and get me!! During the ride I talked about my car troubles Moses (the driver) told me that he’d take me home when my shift was over and check out my car!! So that that day he takes me home and checks out my car. He couldn’t figure out the problem initially so he made an offer “you can take my car until we get yours fixed” 😳 …the entire time I’m thinking this guy is either crazy or he wants some ass😭😩 the next day he picks me up after class and takes me to his car A BRAND NEW QX56 INFINITI TRUCK! I couldn’t believe it!! How could a complete stranger just offer me his truck like that?? When I asked he told me “its material it can be replaced…you’re a human I care more about your well being and comfort” 🙌🏾✊🏾 I kept the truck for a few weeks and he eventually not only paid for the part but also fixed my car! We never exchanged more than first names and one day he just disappeared!! …kinda feels like he was my little angel!
Later on in life I dated a Nigerian…honestly the first man I ever loved!! The first person that cared about every part of me…my health, my spirit (he got me into church lol), my family, my credit, my future, my sanity, etc I got to learn a lot about their upbringing and culture!! I’ve never seen anything like it…the most selfless people I’ve ever met!! Family and Education come second to only God!! Bonds that aren’t broken! Money over everything but money before nothing!!! In the African American culture a person would literally kill someone of a few dollars🤦🏾‍♀️ shit I’ve had a friend chew me out over less than $5🤷🏾‍♀️ but anyway….Nigerians just have something about them!! Their passion is different!! Their ambition is different!! The way they live is different…and apparently I’m obsessed🙃

Let’s take a minute…

Let’s take a minute to acknowledge mental health in the black community. Yes, you’re strong but let’s go ahead and admit you’re not really “ok” as you say you are.

Let’s take a minute to acknowledge our fight against racism, we may need to go back to the drawing board. Let’s take education for example. We fought to end segregation in schools…. to send our kids to white schools thennnnnn we complain that the white schools dont teach black history/culture🤔 that’s like buying apple seeds, planting them, and expecting bananas to grow🤦🏾‍♀️

Let’s take a minute to acknowledge that the roles of women have drastically change…DRASTICALLY! We are no longer homemakers, barefoot in the kitchen, or pregnant. I could possibly  be stoned for saying this 👀 but can we go back to how it use to be ?? I mean I don’t want to do a mans job, I don’t care about being equal to a man!! They are them so that we could be us….not so we could emasculate them and compete to be better than them…but I digress🤦🏾‍♀️

Let’s take a minute to acknowledge that social media is the devil…but y’all already knew that🤷🏾‍♀️

Let’s  take a minute to point out the fact that the black woman is STILL the least respected , unprotected, and neglected in America 🗣Y’ALL DONT HEAR ME THO!!

Let’s take a minute to admit that the dating pool for my generation has gone to shits!! I had a guy that actually cancelled the date (midFUCKINdate) because I complained about him not opening the door! I don’t ask for much..:no like I really don’t ask for much but damn😕

#thatsalligot 

#GetOverItSis

9 days before my 28th birthday at 3:36am I could possibly be laying here tossing and turning and BOTHERED by some shit that happened when I was 7🤦🏾‍♀️ lol 

Cancers are known for forgiving but not forgetting but I really wish I would forget some shit!! I’m currently in a situation where a guy clearly wants to date me and has been COMPLETELY honest about his past and endeavors and for the life of me I can’t get over it! Wait, but not only can I not get over it I can’t address it as an adult to try and move forward either! So I’m stuck sulking in it…using my imagination (in the worse way of course) to fill in the blanks! 

This leads me to wonder some things 🤔 am I accustomed to getting lied to , does the truth hurt more than a lie, and how many great things have I missed out because I couldn’t get over a small detail?? This current situation is literally eating me alive. I asked a question and he told the truth and I can’t seem to gather myself now🤦🏾‍♀️ the silly thing is if he would have lied to me we’d be in a better situation….I mean I wouldn’t be up at 3:48am putting imaginary pieces to an imaginary puzzle together 😩 which leads me to believe I haven’t found happiness in a man because I haven’t discovered the art of letting go…of getting over shit…of living in my truth and accepting someone else’s!!!

That’s where sabotage comes in, but thats a whole new blog🤦🏾‍♀️

Social Media Rehab

It’s been 2 weeks since I’ve deactivated Instagram and Facebook and a few hours since I finally let Snapchat go😩😩 my goal is to completely let go of it for good!! What was once a fun way to interact with strangers and meet new people is now a headache!! Social media has altered reality so now how things are perceived via social media is what others believe is our reality!! 
Our body goals, life goals, travel goals, relationship goals are all influenced by other peoples “social media realities.”
 I read an article somewhere that stated that social media is now a leading cause of depression and other mental health issues!! Children are growing up believing their life is only validated by likes and followers! You can call a friend nowadays and wish them happy birthday and later get chewed out because you didn’t tell them via social media😒
I’ve found myself interrupting a perfect moment because I needed to snap real quick 🤦🏾‍♀️ And this is not new problem for me…I was using AOL cds to get onto black planet 15 years ago😂 MzBrittney_lsd was my screen name 😩😂🤦🏾‍♀️ social media has always been fun for me…it’s always been my thing!! But at some point enough is enough. I recently had an incident in a Facebook group were a guy I was talking to got caught in a lie…a grown 30 something year old man at that point gets to name calling and bullying!! …because he’s a bad liar🤔 it was at that point that I reached my enough point! I had allowed a person that I didn’t know, that meant nothing to me to hurt my feelings, make me question myself, had me defending my character to other people I don’t know!! Wasted time and energy!! Yep, enough is enough!
My goal in the end is to have more meaningful social interactions because right now my social life (outside of traveling) consists of liking and commenting on people’s pictures! There’s a great need to do better. 

Switch!!

When I made it back from Australia I received a text from a friend saying that she had a a breakdown!! I asked more about what was going on and she basically said that she wish she had the freedom I had when it comes to traveling! I got really upset because her life is perfect…I mean she’s my life idol!! I had to get an interpretation from another friend to understand because from my point of view….my life isn’t amazing enough for someone to want! Basically it was interpreted that successful people have tunnel vision, they’re in a box, etc. They are instilled with the American dream from kids so they normally get a degree or 2, buy a house, get married, have kids, and live happily ever after while people like me are circles that don’t easily fit into anyone’s box!

I randomly asked a few. people that had my dream life lol (married w/ kids) were they happy?? Is it everything you thought it would be?? And while all of them agreed that they loved their spouse and kids most of them wished that they would have either waited longer or they wish they hadn’t made the commitments at all!! That was heartbreaking for me!! It’s like finding out Santa wasn’t real and my grandma was really the tooth fairy!! I’ve spent so many thoughts, prayers, tears, wishes, etc on that exact life…the life they have but would switch out of in a second if they had the opportunity!! 

We’ve all be programmed with how life should be. Those of us who go astray have thoughts and what ifs on what life could have been while the people that followed the programming have the same thoughts and what ifs. I say we all just say fuck it and make do and find happiness with the life we have🤷🏾‍♀️ but it’s not that simple!!

Around the World in 17 Days 

Journey start date: April 15, 2017

Journey end date: May 2, 2017

5 continents visited: North America, Europe, Africa, Asia, and Australia

7 cities: Houston, Amsterdam, CapeTown, Johannesburg, Dubai, Sydney, Los Angeles

Travel time: 54 hours flying and 20 hours on a bus 


Hostels: Amsterdam -ClinkNOORD , CapeTown- 91 Loop, Dubai- At The Top, Sydney- Bondi Backpackers 

Amsterdam- 4/16-18 the flight from Amsterdam was amazing. The flight attendants knew we were crew and delivered amazing service. The weather was cold and rainy. Overall beautiful city and on the more expensive side. We arrived early in the am and caught the train and a ferry  from the airport to the hostel. The hostel overall was really nice but in a inconvenient location, had to catch the ferry to get to the city. It also didn’t include free breakfast but did offer a free walking tour daily. Food on a whole was really good. We didn’t do any real touristy things other than take pictures near the iAmsterdam sign.​

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​​​​CapeTown- 4/18-23 What an adventure 🤦🏾‍♀️😂 The weather in Capetown was beautiful, warm and sunny!! We arrived kinda late so we caught an Uber from the airport to the hostel. The hostel was conveniently located, staff was amazing, offered free breakfast, and cheap. The city is beautiful full of mountains and bordered by the ocean. We were warned that things could be sketchy so always stow your phone and valuables but we didn’t actually have any threats or problems. Food was amazing but that’s where this becomes an adventure😂 about day 2 or 3 I ate something that my body didn’t like and got really sick!! I’ll spare you the details but I’ll say even if advised it’s ok DO NOT DRINK THE TAP WATER!! I ate a bunch of local food and a bunch of fish and chips. We did a bunch of walking around but we also did a few touristy things. We visited The Cape of Good Hope, Cape Point, Bo Kaap, The Penguins, and Table Top Mountain. We also hung out with some locals at a club for reggae night….I was drunk and it was LIT! lol I extended my stay because I was to sick to leave when I was supposed to . Overall CapeTown was the most meaningful part of the trip for me…a lot of lessons of humanity and my first time getting sick while traveling.

The journey from CapeTown to Johannesburg was a longgggggg one! I ended sitting next to a local who was traveling to JoBurg to go to the embassy and apply for a passport. Really nice guy but after 20 hours on a bus I was convinced he was bat shit crazy!! Our encounter started with him being in my seat and ended with him telling me how deep in love he was with me and wanting to know when he would see me again because his heart can’t go on without me 😳🤷🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️  he offered me a muffin that he pulled from his pocket and was super hurt when I declined. On our first refreshment stop he got some chocolate for me and basically just wanted to watch me it. In the middle of the night it got really cold and I woke up covered in all his sweaters and jackets, he had basically unpacked his bag on me 😩😂 other than that the scenery was beautiful but my phone was dead so he ended up being my only entertainment 😒 I made another friend, Peter, at the bus station in Capetown  once we made it to JoBurg I ran into him again and he saved me from paying my life savings on an Uber to the airport by showing me where and how to catch the train. We talked along the train ride and he ended up being a really nice guy (as everyone I came in contact with was)! I made it to the airport and was able to change my flight to an earlier one, it was time for Dubai!!! 

Humanity- the quality of being humane; benevolence.

I expected to learn a lot from my first trip to the motherland….I didn’t know humanity would be the biggest lesson!!
A few days into the trip I became really…really sick. By day 3 I had requested an uber and was heading to the ER!! I got in the uber and asked if there was an ER closer than the one I had selected…Mogammad looked and me and said, “you look healthy” lol I told him what was wrong and he told me the hospital would just take my money “I’m taking you to the pharmacy, you need green tea and black seeds” 😳 well ok sure😩😂😩 all 3 pharmacies were sold out!! In the Muslim community it is said that black seeds will cure anything except death…and that’s that the prophet Mohammad had used for all his illnesses!! 

So after 3 unsuccessful Pharmacy attempts he called his mom…we then drove 30 minutes across town to his mother’s house where she met us at the door with 2 bags of black seeds!! Where’s the humanity in this?? He was at work just doing his job…he could have easily made his 25Rand and dropped me off but instead he turned the uber trip off and did everything in his power to be sure that I got what I needed and make sure I was ok…even stopping to let me use the restroom when I needed to!! 
I’m sure you thinking, how crazy am I to take health advice and venture off with a stranger in a foreign country by myself…energy is rea!! Vibes are real!! …and I still believe that people, as a whole, have good intentions!! 
The day before this my new bunk-mate in the hostel saw me coming out of the restroom and immediately asked what she could get for me. I was out of rand so I gave her a debit card…I knew I was dehydrated so I just told her water and alka seltzer. She came back with more than I had asked for and told me she had used her own money to buy everything since she got stuff that I didn’t ask for!! This is someone who I had only met a few hours before. It really makes my heart smile to know that people still care!! …that people are still compassionate!!! 
There’s not a single person that I’ve come in contact with on this trip that didn’t remind me that we are still human…that we all have feelings and we all MATTER!! Between the civil unjust and new president in America it makes it hard to remember that before anything else we are humans!! It’s just really refreshing to see that there are everyday humanitarians among us!!!